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How Generalisations can Expand or Limit Us

The Generalisations we and other people make will in some ways support us and them. However, they will also limit our choices and have detrimental effects.  Consider both these effects in your current daily communications.

EXAMPLE 1:       My boss is extremely busy all of the time.

Enhancing –  Leads you to other sources of help and advice, including your own resources.
Limiting – A potential source of advice is lost, as well as rapport and team communication.

EXAMPLE 2:         We’ve always done it like this.

Enhancing – You feel at home with a tried and tested system.
Limiting – You never find new, possibly better/quicker/easier ways.

EXAMPLE 3:           America is a violent country.

Enhancing –  You pick holiday locations carefully.
Limiting –  You never go and remain ignorant of all of the extremely peaceful and beautiful places in America.

Now Your Turn:

Think of a situation which took place this week.  Then think of a  generalisation you made, and establish in what way it supported you and in what way it held you back.

Enhancing:

Limiting:

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NLP Fast Phobia Cure

It is so easy to take control of our minds and therefore our results.  Sometimes all we need is to be told a simple technique and that will quantum leap our progress.  One such example of how profoundly and quickly this can happen is the famous NLP Fast Phobia Cure.  It is all a simple matter of how we write our internal programmes.  All we have to do is make some slight enhancements with the software.  Well, here it is.

1. Have your staff member find their greatest fear in life.

2.  Have them walk into an ‘imaginary movie theatre’ of their mind and sit down in the centre of the front row.

3. Have them float up out of their body and gently settle in a comfortable seat in the balcony, so they can watch themselves watching the screen.

4. Have them put the very beginning of their greatest fear on the screen in the form of a coloured slide.  Have them run the movie of their greatest fear all way to the end, as they remain in the balcony watching themselves in the front seat watching themselves on the screen.  (This double dissociation will weaken any emotional effect to enable them to make the changes without re feeling the negative experience.)

5. At the end of the movie, freeze the frame into a slide.  Change the picture to black and white and then re-associate fully into the picture on the screen (“walk into the movie”).  Run the associated movie backwards at triple speed or faster, with circus or cartoon music playing, and have them freeze-frame the image when they get back to the beginning of the movie.

6. Have them walk out of the still picture and sit back down in the centre of the front row of the theatre.  Then have them white-out the entire screen.

7. Repeat steps #3-6 as necessary.  Test for phobic response after each time through

Reinforce with plenty of presuppositions about how they can now live without the fear.

Sorted.  Now what else could you change for the better?

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New Behaviour Generator

The New Behaviour Generator is a NLP strategy for generating change in your own behaviour.  You can use it to generate completely new behaviours or to improve and reinforce existing ones.  it can also be used as a valuable learning strategy, allowing you to turn failure into feedback.

1. Choose new behaviour or context.

2. Choose your ‘role’ model.

3. Make a mental movie of your role model producing the new behaviours in the desired context.  Notice how people respond to them.  Change it until you like it.  Run it straight through to the happy ending.

4. When you are satisfied with the new behaviour(s), imagine yourself producing the new behaviours in the desired context.  Go through the same mental movie as your role model.  keep going until it looks and sounds good to you, and you are satisfied.

(Remember, it is unlikely to seem familiar yet.)

5. Step into the imaginary ‘movie’.  Run it through as though you are there doing it.  As you go through the motions, pay particular attention, both to your feelings and also to your responses of any other people around you.  Keep going until the behaviour begins to feel natural and/or familiar.

6. When you are happy with your performance and the feelings that accompany it, ask yourself ‘What signal will I see, hear, or feel, internally or externally, which will let me know that it is time to use this new behaviour ?’

7. Imagine the signal happening, you carry out your new behaviours and become aware of your feelings of satisfaction..  Run it through several times, until it becomes automatic.

The New Behaviour Generator is a formal way of saying ‘From the experience that you have just had, if you were going to attempt it again, what would you do differently ?’