The human brain can be seen as a very advanced form of computer. Unfortunately though we are not given a user manual. There are four reasons why communication between our sophisticated computers can so easily break down.
1. Programmes from birth (values, beliefs, learning) all different and often conflict.
EG: Son, don‘t talk to strangers. Later try to make new friends. Urghhh.
2. We have too much data around us, so we cut the vast majority out by using filters. In short we Generalise, Distort and Delete the world around us producing a totally different result from each other.
3. We develop a sensory preferred language and think and talk in it. Pictures, Sounds And Feelings.
4. If the above is not enough. Everything that we think and experience internally both consciously and unconsciously is communicated non verbally.
The result is that we are all talking completely different languages to each other, from the basis of a completely different model‘ of the world. Our behaviour is not based on reality‘ but our internal representations of reality. Just say one word to people and ask them to record what they see, hear and feel internally. Notice how everybody‘s experience is different.